As an experienced rugby professional...

Dear Chaps

As an experienced rugby professional, you already know that the reliable way to get ahead in your game is to perform excellently and to beat all performance expectations. To do this you need to work hard, develop your skills, and show wisdom and good leadership.

Hard work is up to you. You learn from the best: You know the right skills, You got the right training, and got the coaching you need, you can deliver an exceptional performance this week. But it's not just performance that matters here: You need to grow as a capable, well-balanced, happy person sharing in the fun.

For the weeks to come please look at the following aspects of your life:

Emotional Awareness: Understand what you’re feeling and why.

Perseverance: Whether you’re working toward an outward goal or on inner coping strategies, they’re all action-oriented -- trust in the process and don’t give up.

Internal Locus of Control: Believe that you, rather than outside forces, are in control of your own life.

Optimism: See the positives in most situations and believe in your own strength.

Support: While you tend to be strong individuals, you know the value of social support and must be able to surround yourself with supportive friends and family.

Sense of Humor: You’re able to laugh at life’s difficulties.

Perspective: Resilient people are able to learn from their mistakes (rather than deny them), see obstacles as challenges, and allow adversity to make you stronger. Find meaning in life’s challenges rather than seeing yourself as a victim.

Spirituality: Being connected to your spiritual side has been connected with stronger emotional resilience, especially if you're internally connected and not just going through the motions of attending services. (This doesn't mean that people who aren't spiritual can't be resilient, just that this connection has been found.)

Cheers for now

Sean Friedenthal