No respect?

I've learned a secret about what's going on when someone is not giving you the respect, admiration you want. Let me explain...

Most of us are taught that when a relationship is struggling, we should be extra nice, thoughtful, and giving. However, they are usually not the key to getting respect and appreciation from people who are withholding it from you.

Sometimes, we irritate people in oblivious ways:

We wait around for moans instead of making plans;
We ask for direction on tasks when we're really seeking approval;
We talk and tell them about how miserable our work place is;
We socialize when people are trying to work;
We complain too often;
We check up on people and judge their choices;
We become bossy or controlling;
We complain about not being give responsibility; and,
We lay guilt trips on our colleagues should they disagree with our feelings.

When you lean psychologically or emotionally on people or
toward them, it makes others feel uncomfortable.

They resent the weight you are laying on them, and they will
react by denying you.

They don't like your self-indulgence, and your insecurity
reminds them of their own vulnerability; it rattles them.

Consciously and subliminally, they sense the weakness your
moaning creates.