Friday, August 22, 2008

Lack of Motivation?

A common question many athletes/students want to know is why they
lose their motivation so fast... they'll set a really juicy
goal that, if they achieved it, it would make a giant
difference in many parts of their life, often a minor setback has a disastrous effect.
Once a goal has been achieved, usually within a day, or a week, a month or a few months, it's over, the drive and energy.

The dream shattered... again.
And people want to know why...
...Why can't they end a bad habit a down streak and start a good one
even when it would mean so much to them if they did.

The real answer is that there are potentially hundreds of
reasons for each person, but here are a few that stand out:

1-- Other people
Since other people often don't care about your
goals or dreams, people you know will often invite you to
go places and do things that are in direct opposition to
your goal.

And if it's attractive enough, you do it... especially if
they push and beg and plead and shame you and give you
every reason why you should do the thing you promised
yourself you would not do.
"What's the matter, don't like my braaiing?" Or, "We never
see each other. Just stay and have a beer a while longer."
And so you can't let them down. You fold. And it's
over... and then you beat yourself up about your failing to
make sure you know how lame you are, making you that much
less likely to ever even set that goal again in your life.
You must be able to cultivate a bit of selfishness in order
to stay on track. When your own wishes become as important
as others, you can finally start achieving some major
success in life.

2-- Distractions
Email, TV, the couch, the bed, the party, the project you
forgot about... distractions of all types.
There are thousands of attractive temptations that can
take your mind off your goals. But think about this...
there are a lot of people who can say no to them in order
to stay on track. So if it is possible for them, it's
possible for you.

3-- Fanatasy goals
If you are not clear on what you want, when you want it,
how you want it and how you will get it, it's not a real
goal, just a fantasy. You need to be able to see it, feel
it and taste it. Again, go back in your mind and think...
whenever you got what you wanted in your life, you had a
clear picture in your mind what it and you would look and
feel like after you got your goal.

4-- Reluctance to ask
If brains and hard work were the only ingredients to high
level success in most areas of life, there would be a lot
more getting done in the world. But the average person
goes it alone. And when they see that they can't do it on
their own, game over. Quitting time. But the most
successful people in every part of life are at the top
because they can get other people interested in helping
them.

5-- No faith
When you don't believe you can achieve some objective, why
would you bother setting a goal and attempting to achieve
it? Answer: You wouldn't. Confidence in yourself, in
others and in the situation are critical.

Another factor is seeing problems as huge in your mind.
This kills motivation like few other things. In fact, this
is one of the core mental failure patterns. A key skill is
to be able to mentally shrink the size of problems and
represent them in your mind as nothing bigger than a speck.
Do this and you'll be able to reach speeds that you never
dreamed possible.

Guilt is a swift motivation killer. When you can't let go
of feeling guilty over your success when others, "just as
worthy as you" don't have what you do, self-destruction is the
only answer. You must be able to see yourself as worthy
and be able to let go of guilt over what you've earned.
Comfort is a negative to motivation. If you are too much a
creature of habit, anything outside the normal routine is
going to be rejected.
Falling in love with change is the ,desireonly way to stop this motivation stopper.
As mentioned above, inability to keep your mind on why you
are doing a thing is probably the number one killer of
motivation.

Because desire, the basic emotion of "WANT" is the first
and most important mental habit you could have in your
pursuit of any goal and of a better life.

Desire stands above all else.
Because when you want something bad enough, it almost
doesn't matter what you lack. When your desire is strong
enough, in the face of all adversity, you'll find a way.

And remember, if you want something badly enough, you will
probably get it, just not in the form you thought of.

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